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Communication Skills for Relationship Explorers: GAVSD

Cartoon of angry woman with crossed arms“If you REAlly LOVED me,
you’d be willing to LIsten

to me and HELP!”

This sentence is a Verbal Attack.

No, really, it is.  Let me ‘splain….

I’ve been having a useful conversation with my almost-ex in his Facebook (and my LiveJournal, but that part is FriendsLocked for the comfort of my commenters there). Over a few days last week, we unpacked one of our really major BAD DYNAMICS from our relationship.

[It’s one of the reasons that I still appreciate him and our relationship–even at our worst, we’ve always tried to look at this stuff and learn from it.  The fact that we were so mired up at one point that we could no longer make progress is of course why we’re not together anymore. But the other fact that we’re still both willing and able to examine these behaviors and learn is why I still sometimes present workshops with him. By learning from our own mistakes we might be able to help others, so at least that way all our pain might not have been completely wasted! ;^)]

So as I said, over the past week or so we’ve discussed a particularly challenging type of interaction for us, one that was especially poisonous, and which dogged us for the entire course of our relationship.  And in the course of this analysis, one of the sentences I unpacked was one that I labeled a Verbal Attack Pattern, after the work of Suzette Haden Elgin, the author of the Gentle Art of Verbal Self Defense series. Continue reading

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Making Maps: Updated Resources Pages

Google Earth image of heart-shaped islandIn one of my previous posts, I put up an essay talking about how we should be “gentle with ourselves, but fierce fighting oppression.”  So this is me trying to be gentle with myself. *wry smile*  I’ve been trying to get new posts up more often than this, but things in my life have been somewhat stressful and busy recently.  In the meantime, though, I’ve also been adding to and updating some of my Pages. In particular, you might want to check out the Maps & Charts one, which leads to several pages on various resources for polyamorous, non-monogamous, or other relationships. If you’re looking for books to read, other sites to visit, tools for relating, or a group to join in your area, there’s something here for you. I’ll be updating, adding, and probably restructuring, so check back on occasion to see if there’s more that you’re interested in.  And as always, if there’s something cool out there that you want to bring to my attention, please, by all means, let me know! I love being able to share good resources with lots of people.

Smooth sailing!

~♥ Dawn

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Update: Canadian Polyamory Advocacy Assn.

In October of 2010, the Canadian Polyamory Advocacy Association sent members and representatives to the Poly Living West conference in Seattle, WA, followed by a meeting of the Poly Leadership Network.  They shared in detail their efforts and plans. Below is a detailed letter written by Carole Chanteuse of the CPAA, updating the Loving More Non-profit Organization in time for them to share this information at their Poly Living East conference in Philadelphia, PA this weekend, Feb. 4-6, 2011.

Comments are welcome here, or on the CPAA Facebook Page.

“Live well, Laugh often, Love much”!

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Spit for science! A new study on polyamory

Image of test tube tilted to the right, mostly filled with green liquidHi everyone!

I recently got a request to forward a request for people to volunteer for a very interesting study, involving hormone levels and relationship styles.  I’ve checked out the study, and verified that yes, this is a serious study by a good researcher from a good University, with all appropriate protocols and approvals.  Read below for more information and/or to volunteer for the study.

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This site is under construction.  For more information or to schedule a workshop or counseling session, please e-mail Dawn at

Dawn has been providing relationship coaching and facilitation since 1998. In particular, she is a nationally recognized speaker and expert on the alternative relationship style of polyamory (open and honest multiple relationships). She has co-led workshops and study groups on a variety of topics, including personal growth, safer sex, the Agreement Process (TM), conscious relating, and polyamory. She has been a favorite presenter at Loving More Conferences and has appeared internationally on television programs as a spokesperson on alternative relationships.

Dawn holds a bachelor’s degree in Genetics from the University of California Berkeley. She is also a Certified Interchange Radical Counselor (, and certified by the Integrated Arts Institute in Shamanic Soul Coaching.

For over 20 years she has studied and trained in communication, relationships, spirituality, and sexuality, including with organizations and individuals such as Non-Violent Communication, Landmark Education, Deborah Anapol (author of Love Without Limits), Lori Grace Star (Director of the Celebrations of Love Institute and creator of “Sexual Energetics”), Evalena Rose (founder and director of Tantra for Women), Robyn Trask (head of Loving More Non-profit), and the Human Awareness Institute.

Dawn’s style of coaching and mentoring provide a deep compassionate listening, combined with a wide scope of knowledge and resources, as well as insightful and intuitive guidance to express your most authentic self. She is kink-aware, sensitive to issues of gender and sexual orientation, and a proponent of all forms of loving relationship.

Dawn Davidson provides phone coaching nationwide, and in-person sessions in the SF East Bay.