In my last post I mentioned Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. He also has a more recent tool, the 5 Languages of Apology. Now they’ve got a quiz up on their website, to figure out which of the 5 “Apology Languages” you resonate most with. Which of the 5 Apology Languages do you think is MY primary one? What about you? What’s your apology language? What do you think about this tool? Comments welcome!
Seems like I’m VERY strongly in favor of “making restitution” where possible:
2 Expressing Regret
3 Accepting Responsibility
11 Making Restitution
3 Genuinely Repenting
1 Requesting Apology
Now that you know your apology language, here’s some more information you might not have realized about it, and why certain apologies affect you more than others.
You have chosen Making Restitution as your primary Apology Language. You find it easiest to forgive when action is taken to compensate for the wrong done to you. You listen not only to admission of fault, but also for the question, What can I do to make it better?
I agree that without that final step, an apology doesn’t feel “complete” to me.
What about you? What’s your primary apology language? What do you think about this tool?