Gentle with ourselves; fierce fighting oppression.

A very interesting essay  by trans activist Dean Spade.


I do not have a prescription for successful relationships, and I don’t think anyone should. The goal of most of my work is to remove coercive mechanisms that force people to comply with heteronormative gender and family norms. People often get confused and think that me and other trans activists are trying to erase gender and make everyone be androgynous. In fact, that sounds a little boring to me. What want to see is a world in which people do not have to be criminalized, or cast out of their family, or cut off welfare, or sexually harassed at school, or subjected to involuntary mental health care, or prevented from getting housing because they organize their gender, desire, or family structure in a way that offends a norm. I hope we can build that vision by practicing it in our own queer and activist communities and in our approaches to ourselves. Let’s be gentle with ourselves and each other and fierce as we fight oppression.

Read the whole (somewhat long but worth it) essay, here:
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7 thoughts on “Gentle with ourselves; fierce fighting oppression.

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    Thank you for sharing. Not to many people in your position are so gracious. Your article was very poignant and understandable. It helped me to understand very clearly. Thank you for your help.

    1. dawnd Post author

      You know, I find this comment, and the other several spam comments that I’ve gotten on this post, to be particularly irksome and ironic. This post links to a blog on “fighting oppression.” And yet, the miracle of keywords brings me spam that is oppressive, full of tips on dieting, for instance. Um, no thank you. Miss the point, much?

    1. dawnd Post author

      Thanks! My blog is about polyamory. Or had you missed that? I’m trying for a healthy mental health plan, which generally doesn’t involve engaging in self-oppressive behaviors like dieting for weight loss. But thanks for commenting (even if you are spam….)

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