Hi folks! In preparation for the recent workshops I gave in San Jose and in Berkeley, I updated my Polyamory Resources Handout. Below I’ve copied the new version for your pleasure and information. This was designed to fit on 2 sides of a single sheet of paper, so it doesn’t have anywhere near all of the resources I have listed elsewhere, … let alone all there are these days! However, this list should provide a good place to start or continue your explorations into “outside the box relationships.”
I’ve pasted the content below my signature, for ease of access.
I’ve also got a pdf version available. Drop me a line at firstname.lastname@example.org if you’d like to get a copy!
Because no matter who or how many you love… Love is always OK!
PS: Are you local to the San Francisco East Bay area? If so, you may want to check out this new class that I’m co-creating with Francesca Gentille!
Sat. April 26th, 12:30 – 6pm: Afternoon Delights on the WILDER SHORES OF LOVE: Relationships Outside the Box
Class ~ Take-home Information ~ Participatory Experience ~ Connection Salon & Tea ~
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SOME RESOURCES FOR POLYAMORY
(and Other Relationships)
© 2014 Dawn M. Davidson of Love Outside the Box
http://lovemore.com/ – Loving More® Non-profit home page, including newly updated FAQ and local resource links, discussion list, and NEW interactive personals.
http://www.morethantwo.com/– Polyamory: What? Why? How?: An EXCELLENT “primer” on polyamory.
http://www.polyamory.org – home page for the Usenet newsgroup alt.polyamory, this page also has a lot of information about other internet resources, including FAQs, mailing lists, books, movies, etc.
http://www.modernpoly.com/ – Lively presentation, social networking tools, and open-source approach.
http://solopoly.net/ – “Life, relationships, and dating as a free agent” Information, posts, and support for “poly singles” and others interested in or practicing polyamory, open relationships, etc. in a “non-dyadic,” “solo,” egalitarian, or not-couple-centric way.
http://www.blog.loveoutsidethebox.com – “Guidance and Tools For Open-Hearted People — Because Love is always OK!” Resources, links, free downloads and more from Dawn Davidson, counselor, coach & presenter on polyamory and other alternative relationship styles.
A Few of the Many Books
(alphabetically by author; see Amazon Recommendations list below to purchase!)
Anapol, Deborah M. – Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits, IntiNet Resource Center 1997
Block, Jenny – Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage, Seal Press, 2008
Chapman, Gary – The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, Northfield Publishing, 1992
Chapman, Mim – What Does Polyamory Look Like? Polydiverse Patterns of Loving and Living in Modern Polyamorous Relationships, iUniverse.com, 2010
Davidson, Dawn – KISSable Agreements (and Other Secrets to Negotiating in Polyamorous Partnerships), 2013 Available as a pdf download
Easton, Dossie and Liszt, Catherine – The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships& Other Adventures, 2nd Edition, Celestial Arts Press, 2009
Gottman, John M. and Silver, Nan – The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert, Three Rivers Press, 2000
Kramer, Matt – Conversations before a Marriage, InfoBooks, 1999
Labriola, Kathy – Love In Abundance: A Counselor’s Advice On Open Relationships, Greenery Press, 2010
Labriola, Kathy – The Jealousy Workbook, Greenery Press, 2013
McGarey, Robert – Poly Communication Survival Kit: The Essential Tools for Building and Enhancing Relationships, The Human Potential Center, 2001
Rosenberg, Marshall – Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Compassion, PuddleDancer Press, 1999
Taormino, Tristan – Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships, Cleis Press, 2008
Taylor, Patricia Huntington – The Enchantment of Opposites: How to Create Great Relationships, Traveling Artists, 1997
West, Celeste – Lesbian Polyfidelity, Booklegger Publishing, 1996
Groups and Lists
http://www.polyamory.org/SF/mail-lists.html – SF Bay Area Local discussion and event lists.
http://www.meetup.com/Bay-Area-Poly-Collective/ – Bay Area Polyamory Collective: A collection of Meetup Groups and other listings for Bay Area people interested in polyamory, open relationships, and more. Includes meetups for “Newcomers” in East Bay and SF.
Loving More’s “Love List” email discussion group (moderated) — https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/LovingMore_lovelist/info
groups.yahoo.com/group/ExpansiveLoving/– “Expansive Loving,” a discussion list and online meeting place for spiritual and “new thought” polyamorists.
Where to meet potential poly partners (in the SF East Bay) — a brainstormed list of places to meet “likeminded” people. Not necessarily poly-specific, and focused on the SF East Bay, but you may find some good ideas even if you’re from elsewhere in the world. 🙂
https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/eastbaypolypotluck/info – SF East Bay Area Local discussion/potluck, once/month or so at rotating East Bay homes.
SF Bay Area Calendars of interest to polyamorous/non-monogamous people. http://blog.loveoutsidethebox.com/maps-charts-resources-for-relationships/sf-bay-polynon-monogamy-event-calendars/
International Conference on the Future of Monogamy and Non-Monogamy: https://sites.google.com/site/ipachome/ — with Academic & non-academic tracks – February 21-23 2014
Agreements and Safer Sex
http://www.sfsi.org/ – San Francisco Sex Information. Clearing house for safer sex information and training. Check here for other good links, too.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org – Click on Find a Center under Health Services to find a location for testing.
More Relationship and Safer Sex Agreements Examples and Info: http://blog.loveoutsidethebox.com/resources-more-relationship-safer-agreements-info/
Our Open Agreement – an online open-agreement-making tool by Cat Maness, MFTi http://www.ouropenagreement.com/
Aggregation sites related to polyamory
Poly-Friendly Professionals: http://www.polychromatic.com/pfp/main.php
Poly Conferences: http://polyevents.blogspot.com/
Polyamory In The News: http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/
Poly Movies: http://www.theinnbetween.net/polymovies.html
Poly Music: http://www.theinnbetween.net/polymusic.html
Poly Books: http://www.theinbetween.net/polybooks.html
Poly clothing & jewelry: http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2010/04/poly-jewelry-clothing-and-other.html
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[© 2014 Dawn M. Davidson]